So with such a massive incentive to “keep families together”, why do
divorces continue and children continue to be raised in one parent homes?

IT’s very simple–there is hardly any information available about the custody system. Any probate court will post pictures of happy children on
its walls to give the impression that these parentless children are somehow
the beneficiaries of the successful “locking up” of their fathers.

The simple cost of attempting to pursue one’s parental rights in court should
be alone thwart most divorces where children are involved. If parents were aware of what their divorce will really cost, they would realize it would probably prove much worse than staying together.

Today, most fathers are held hostage to a system which will penalize
them for speaking out against it. As the system appropriates nearly 1/3 of
their income, the average father has little chance of even being able to afford
an attorney, should he want to be involved with his children.

IN fact, the system provides every incentive for the custodial parent (generally the mother), to exclude the father from his children’s lives. Any attempt by a father to secure access to his children is easily thwarted by
“playing procedure.” The custodial parent, using child support money, can hire an attorney to “procedure away” any objection by the father.

THe most elementary petition by a non custodial parent can be dragged out for months–and even years. The custodial parent simply weighs the amout of child support spent on her attorney (to procedure something to death)–against future revenues collected in “child support.”

THe current system also provides excellent opportunities to “wreak vengeance.” As establishing anything via the court requirse “procedure be followed,” it’s easy to screw any father by simply dragging proceedings out. A father who is foolish enough to attempt to defend his right to his children w/o an attorney, will invariably (at some point) “violate procedure.” This means that everything must be done again (at considerable time delay), assuming that the whole issue isn’t simply thrown out. FOr instance, IN Massachusetts, all documents must be signed in BLUE ink. If you forget, you’ve “violated procedure” and forfeited your rights!

You gotta luv it. How our culture ever managed to describe other cultures as
“savage” is beyond me.

An interesting study would determine how much “child support” is currently being spent on attorneys for the purpose of preventing a non custodial parent from seeing his children.

–but of course these sorts of things would cause Americans to see how the custodial system actually operates. -better to just show them pictures of happy kids, sitting around w/ NFL stars (as is the case in Boston’s SUffolk county), and have a few “Wanted” posters up of “dead beat dads”. In this way the custody and divorce industry can continue in full swing.