Comments on: Bigotry and Contempt at Taxpayer Expense http://www.intellectualconservative.com/2008/05/23/bigotry-and-contempt-at-taxpayer-expense/ Conservative and Libertarian Intellectual Philosophy and Politics Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:00:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: smg45acp http://www.intellectualconservative.com/2008/05/23/bigotry-and-contempt-at-taxpayer-expense/comment-page-1/#comment-72416 smg45acp Thu, 05 Jun 2008 19:42:46 +0000 http://www.intellectualconservative.com/2008/05/23/bigotry-and-contempt-at-taxpayer-expense/#comment-72416 This is not an easy comment to type. This one is very personal. I was a battered spouse. I am a man. (I'll pause a minute to let you get your laughing finished.) The first reaction that always comes across when you talk about being an abused man is "Why didn't you just beat the crap out of her" or some similar stupid reaction. The truth is I could have easily beat her to death. At the time I weighed 155 pounds and was bench pressing 275 pounds. There weren’t many people I couldn't have beat to death. But being able to control some one physically doesn't stop or solve the problem. She would ask he to beat her to death and put her out of her misery. Not much use in threatening some one in that state of mind. It disgusts me more than I can explain how I often see on movies and TV shows a man getting beaten by a woman for cheap laughs. Flip the roles and the same scene would become heart wrenching display of abuse. It is nothing to laugh about. The problems run much too deep to go into in a short comment section like this. As for solutions, I don't have any. I divorced my abusive wife. What happened after that, I don't know. I loved her dearly, but it wasn't worth getting my face ripped up on a regular bases. When she was calm she would admit she didn't know why she did what she did. For anybody reading this that is in an abusive relationship my heart goes out to you. Please believe that you do not deserve to be abused and admit to yourself that if your abusing spouse can not or will not change, you must leave them and move on with your life. I did and have been happily married for 22 years. This is not an easy comment to type. This one is very personal.

I was a battered spouse. I am a man. (I’ll pause a minute to let you get your laughing finished.)
The first reaction that always comes across when you talk about being an abused man is “Why didn’t you just beat the crap out of her” or some similar stupid reaction.
The truth is I could have easily beat her to death. At the time I weighed 155 pounds and was bench pressing 275 pounds. There weren’t many people I couldn’t have beat to death.

But being able to control some one physically doesn’t stop or solve the problem.
She would ask he to beat her to death and put her out of her misery. Not much use in threatening some one in that state of mind.

It disgusts me more than I can explain how I often see on movies and TV shows a man getting beaten by a woman for cheap laughs. Flip the roles and the same scene would become heart wrenching display of abuse. It is nothing to laugh about.

The problems run much too deep to go into in a short comment section like this.
As for solutions, I don’t have any. I divorced my abusive wife. What happened after that, I don’t know. I loved her dearly, but it wasn’t worth getting my face ripped up on a regular bases. When she was calm she would admit she didn’t know why she did what she did.
For anybody reading this that is in an abusive relationship my heart goes out to you. Please believe that you do not deserve to be abused and admit to yourself that if your abusing spouse can not or will not change, you must leave them and move on with your life. I did and have been happily married for 22 years.

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