Did he commit adultery?
Did he force sex on a 19-year-old?
What’s going on here? Should it all be a private matter? Was the woman lying
to gain money? Are we rushing to judgment on this one? Are we being unfair
to a celeb?
There are those who wrote me after my last post regarding this issue. Some said I was being too hard on Kobe. After all, being a pastor, I should have had more compassion.
Let’s get one thing straight here: Kobe did wrong. According to the Bible,
he admits a sin. Then Kobe needs to be absolutely real regarding detail if
he desires mercy from God.
That includes contrition, confessing his sin to God and those he has sinned
against. That means making restitution to those he has sinned against. That
means committing the rest of his life to holiness under God. That means taking
seriously the personal judgment of his soul before God.
With that, Kobe could come into a clean conscience before God. Repenting
genuinely of his sin he would discover divine grace for that sin, forgiveness
from the Lord God, and hopefully the remaking of his future under God.
He would still suffer the earthly consequences of his sin, but his eternal soul would be righted before God.
Now as to what is the bottom line in all this confusion: Kobe, like many other men, does not have a high regard for females.
If he forced sex on the teen, he has not a regard for her person but her
body. If he committed adultery, he has not a regard for his wife and the
marital vows. If he committed adultery or forced sex, he has no regard for
anyone if that sex was without protection, for he could transmit a deadly
disease to others, including his wife.
Taking the latter into serious consideration, if Kobe were not found out
regarding the sexual escapade with the teen, his wife would not know about
that escapade. Then Kobe would continue having sex with his wife but she
would have no knowledge that she might be contracting a deadly disease. If
Kobe went out of bounds on other occasions with other women, then the same
applies, not only to his wife but also to other women.
The gist of the sad situation is that Kobe has little regard for the female
other than the use of her body. That is so terribly unsettling, especially
regarding Kobe’s clean cut image and his sports accomplishments. But with
such comes much responsibility. The latter has yet to be learned by Kobe,
Now Kobe is going to be stroked by his fans, those who make money off his
sports success, and others who have lost their moral compass.
The female has no money near to the likes of Kobe. And now she has the finger
of blame pointed at her by scores of individuals who will rush to judgment,
making her out to be a liar, thus supposedly in some sense cleansing Kobe
of his confessed "adultery."
The whole situation is muddy to the nth degree. And that is what
comes of sex outside of marriage, though present-tense movies, TV sitcoms,
novels, and such organizations promoting "creative sex" as Planned Parenthood
broadcast just the opposite. "Do your own thing" and be happy.
"Happy" presently is not in Kobe’s vocabulary nor that of the teen nor those close to these persons.
Grant Swank, Jr., is the Pastor of New Hope Church in Windham, ME.
Pastor Swank's columns have appeared on IntellectualConservative.com, VIOdaily.com,
AmericanDaily.com, MensNewsDaily.com, BushCountry.org, Chalcedon.com, ConservativeTruth.com,
FreeRepublic.com, WoundedShepherds.com, among others.