Nothing bothers me
more than seemingly intelligent (and not so intelligent) people making specious
arguments in defense of their beliefs, in the guise of some “empirical truth.”
Case in point – the so-called “debate” over same-sex marriages. Since
the Massachusetts Supreme Court took up the issue last year, same-sex marriages
have eclipsed all other news items – save the Democrat primary – including
the conflict in Iraq. Everyone with an opinion – including myself –
has weighed in on the issue; protests in support and opposition abound; and
state legislatures are scrambling to write new laws and change constitutions.
But back to the point...
There seem to be as many ad hominem arguments opposing same-sex marriages
as there are all-stars for the Yankees to sign (sorry Yankees fans).
However, for brevity’s sake, I’ll attempt to cover just a few of them.
“The uniqueness of marriage” – This is a phrase being used by the Campaign For California Families, et al,
as they remain strident in their efforts to stop the onslaught of same-sex
marriages currently taking place in the Golden State. There is nothing
unique about marriage. It has existed for millennia, for varying reasons
and in a number of forms, both recognized and unrecognized by respective
local governments. Over 2 million marriages occur every year, with
a divorce rate nearly half the marriage rate.
“Homosexuality will increase” – Since when does a law,
or lack thereof, determine one’s sexual orientation? One doesn’t suddenly
become “gay” because same-sex marriages become legal everywhere. Homosexuality
has existed for ages, and will continue to exist independent of its acceptance
and/or recognition by the state.
“Opponents of same-sex marriage significantly outnumber supporters”
– So? A few hundred years ago, supporters of slavery likely outnumbered
its opponents. Did that make those supporters correct?
This is one of the most hackneyed and weakest arguments roaming the media
by those supporting a ban on same-sex marriages. This implies the preference
of mob rule to force the belief of a majority on a minority.
“Defend the sanctity of marriage” – Ah, the ubiquitous
line of same-sex marriage opponents, and one apparently worthy of a State
of the Union address. What exactly is being defended? From whom?
This vague phrase is mere groupthink – implying that there is some sort of
“national marriage” to protect. Since marriage is an agreement among
individuals, the sole “defenders” of marriage are the parties of the marriage
– not the courts, the President, government, or the “masses.” The parties
of a marriage determine its sacredness, or lack thereof; and based on the
divorce rates in the United States, it’s a flip of the coin.
“The whole concept of marriage will be meaningless” –
This is perhaps the saddest argument in opposition to same-sex marriages.
It suggests that these individuals derive the meaning of their marriages
from others with whom they disagree. My wife and I have and continually
define our marriage on our own terms, regardless of the social trend du jour
or majority opinion. If heterosexuals let homosexuals or anyone else
define their marriages, then they have deeper issues to worry about.
“It’s not God’s way” – This basis for opposition is understandable,
as many people believe that their respective religions forbid homosexual
behavior. However, what should not be acceptable is the attempt by
a majority to impose its religious or moral edicts on the masses. When
this happens elsewhere, many here in America call that “tyranny” and “oppression.”
The opposition to same-sex marriages has taken many forms, with many positions,
including erroneous comparisons to pedophilia – a separate and sickening
issue. While it is fine to disagree on the issue, one must be wary
of mob rule -- or democracy, as it were – determining the fate of a nation.
So, are homosexuals destroying marriage? Certainly not… Moreover,
looking at the statistics, heterosexuals have been doing a good job destroying
their own marriages without assistance.
Sean Turner is a regular columnist for RenewAmerica.us, GOPUSA.com, and MensNewsDaily.com, and has appeared in the Atlanta Journal-Constitution and the Washington Times.